This is a time of year when many people are confronted with the fact that their dreams did not come true, their job still stinks, and life is no better than last year. What do you do when hope seems to be fading? But is it realistic to lose hope if the car breaks down or you lose your job?
A couple of years ago just before Christmas, Joanne and I had the pleasure of doing a 2-hour presentation at the Tennessee Prison for Women. Joanne is a regular there – she loves the ladies and they love her. I was just invited in to talk about finding work you love. Now how could I present all the opportunities I normally outline when opportunities are obviously limited? But guess what? This was likely the most attentive and engaged audience I’ve spoken to ever. Rather than moaning about no opportunities, this crowd talked excitedly about being able to make wise decisions in choosing hairdressing, horticulture, commercial cleaning, medical sciences, or studying for further degrees.
They readily grasped the idea of looking at themselves first and then finding a proper match in work being selected. And yes, about 75% of this group did have the prospect of being outside again at some time in the future. But even then, under the powerful inspiration of Chaplain Walker, they refered to their “campus,” not their “prison.”
The responses there reminded me of the work of Viktor Frankl. In 1943, Viktor, his wife and his parents were deported to the Auschwitz concentration camp. His only crime was that of being Jewish. He survived the Holocaust, but his wife and both parents were murdered there. It was due to his suffering that he came to the conclusion that even in the most inhumane and painful circumstances, life has potential meaning. He later wrote this:
“We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms — to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” – Man’s Search for Meaning
I was amazed to see the ‘attitude’ of the women at TPW. It gave me a new perspective on how easily we can complain about our “circumstances.” It also reminded me that often when fewer options are available, hope seems to be more present. Believing that all hope is gone is a personal choice. Circumstances do not dictate that – only we can choose to believe that. Are you looking at circumstances and losing hope – or are you making decisions that will transform your life in 2015?
Dan, what a beautiful blog. I LOVE the perspective of “campus” versus prison – very powerful! We all can use a little perspective shift at times – thank you for sharing!!!
What an amazing post, and good counsel. It really is a choice to look at the glass half full instead of half empty. It is a decision to live and take action in an attitude of hope. I’m making decisions that will transform my life in 2015. And while I am doing that, I will remember the excitement of the ladies at TWP, Thanks Dan.
Marcy – those ladies truly are inspiring. Joanne has never experienced worship we way the ladies in the prison do.
I think I know the kind of worship you mean…. a total disregard for anyone else around them or how they look. A personal connecting with a friend, the ONE who fills, uplifts and always believes in us!
Wonderful! Choosing, if not learning, to be content in all things, just as the apostle Paul.
Tim – it is wonderful to realize we have that choice.
That’s powerful and inspiring Dan. I agree – sometimes having too many options seems to dilute hope.
Very inspiring story Dan. I just wrote a post entitled Struggle Is A Precious Gift that follows along these same lines. The older I get the more I realize how out own attitude really determines what happens to us in life and how we feel about the life we live. Attitude seems to be the first choice from which everything else follows. Love the campus vs prison description.
Clark – thanks for your comments.
Dan,
If options create stress and dilute hope (which seems to be true in my experience) then how does one simplify life?
John,
Following your train here the solution would be to limit yourself to new ideas and opportunities.