Two weeks ago my podcast theme was Stay Away From Negative Friends. I talked about my 3-hour rule where I’ll spend 3 hours a year with negative friends but certainly not 3 days or 3 weeks on a vacation.
Well, I knew there was the elephant in the room and didn’t address it fully. I have had a whole lot of you ask this question:
I just listened to your podcast about staying away from negative people. What if the negative person is your wife?
I got both – what if it’s my wife, and what if it’s my husband?
Some of you may be hearing:
- We can’t afford to take a risk right now.
- We don’t have the money.
- You don’t have the time.
- It can’t be done like that.
- Someone else is already doing that.
- You don’t know where to begin.
- Better be safe than sorry.
- You’re not that good.
- You’ve failed in your last 3 ideas – why would this one be different.
- You’re just a dreamer – not a doer.
- You don’t have the credentials.
- You’re not a leader.
- You can’t compete with Dave Ramsey, Michael Hyatt, Pat Flynn or John Lee Dumas.
- You’re too old – you’re too young.
- You don’t have the right degrees.
Sometimes it’s the people closest to us that want us to stay as we are. Where new growth and change may be threatening or a painful reminder to that person that they are feeling stuck.
So before Joanne and I sit down and really combine our thoughts on this, I’d like to hear from you. What are your tips for dealing with a less than supportive spouse when you are ready to pursue your dream?
I’ll share on an upcoming podcast and in a post like this as well. If you want to remain anonymous that’s fine – just let me know. You can add your comments here or email me privately at askdan@48Days.com.
Thanks for your wisdom and insight on this important topic.