Lovin, Learnin, and Earnin!

This is a special Valentine’s Day episode where I invited my wife, Joanne, to join me and talk about the relationship side of success.

Episode #817 February 04, 2022

Hi this is Dan Miller – and yes you’re listening to the 48 Days Radio show – where each week we take 48 minutes to dive into real-life questions about finding your passion, deciding what kind of life you want to live – and then finding or creating work that allows you to show up every day, excited to be able to do something that is meaningful, fulfilling – and profitable. This is where normal, indecision and ambiguity come to die. Welcome to the 48 Days Radio Show.

Questions:

Lovin – how do you keep love and your relationship alive when there are kids, in-laws, grandparents, work, and more to fit in?

An important part of any good relationship is to include them in what you’re doing. Our kids and Joanne have been included in various facets of the businesses I have been a part of. But that doesn’t necessarily mean that we pull our spouse or family members in to do the tasks that you don’t want to do. We were also very intentional about letting the kids experiment with the things they were interested in to make money. We have a very specific timeframe for making any decision — two weeks. This allows for both of our personality tendencies to be represented. I like to make decisions quickly and Joanne likes to think about it, process it and talk about it with others before making a final decision.

Here is our 5-Step Decision-Making Process

State the Problem
Get the Advice and Opinion of Others
List the Alternatives
Choose the Best Alternatives
Act

We’re both very intentional about nurturing our relationship — practicing respect, kindness, patience, and compassion.

Learnin – as you continue to grow – which we hope you do – how do you handle changing the person you were when you first met, your relationship first began and got married?

Sometimes the very things that you loved about a person when you first got to know them and fell in love with them can be the things that drive you crazy years later. When we were very young, we decided that rather than trying to make each other clones of ourselves that we decided to embrace our differences. We are both very aware of our own personality styles and that of the other. In the 48 Days Community, we use the DISC Personality Assessment. Find out more about it here. We’ve learned from our relationship. Joanne says she has learned to be able to embrace change that is a little contrary to her typical personality style. And I’ve learned to be more giving to others.

Earnin – yes, there’s that ongoing responsibility to create income. And if you have a business of your own – with unpredictable income – how do you handle the ups and downs – the uncertainty or the 10 times the income you had five years ago.

The relationship that we have is a result of all of the ups and downs we’ve gone through and how we’ve approached them together. For Better or For Work by Meg Cadoux Hirshberg

Quotation:

[click_to_tweet tweet=”‘The best way to make your spouse and children feel secure is not with big deposits in bank accounts, but with little deposits of thoughtfulness and affection in the ‘love account.” –Zig Ziglar @48daysteam” quote=”‘The best way to make your spouse and children feel secure is not with big deposits in bank accounts, but with little deposits of thoughtfulness and affection in the ‘love account.” –Zig Ziglar “]

Resource:

Get Joanne’s book Creating a Haven of Peace Find out more about understanding your personality styles here PODCAST: 5 Steps To Making a Decision