It’s really not difficult to determine a person’s point of reference.
No, I really didn’t make that up. As usual, the rich life stories I hear in working with people in transition offer enough real anecdotes that I don’t have to be very creative in finding phrases that colorfully describe real situations.
In anticipation of meeting with me, a very “successful” young lady wrote this in her pre-coaching form: “My company is going in a strictly money-motivated direction, and my manager may very well be Satan’s offspring.” She further validated her suspicions with lots of examples that certainly convinced me she might be accurate. While we saw the humor in her portrayal I also helped her go through a list to confirm the possibility of a less than healthy work environment.
Here’s the checklist to tell if your boss (co-worker or the guy in the mirror) is Satan’s offspring:
- Immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures
- Hostility and fighting
- Jealousy, outbursts of anger
- Selfish ambition, dissension, hard to get along with
- Complaints, criticisms, arguing and causing trouble
- The feeling that everyone else is wrong except those in his own little group
- Envy, drunkenness, wild parties
This list is actually a mixture of this lady’s stories and another source I refer to frequently. If it sounds a little familiar, you might want to check the list yourself in Galatians 5:19-23 (The Living Bible).
It’s a well-known fact that we tend to take on the characteristics of those around us. We recognize this phenomenon easily in children. Clothing, music, foods and slang expressions all quickly become a reflection of the group of friends involved. We do much the same as adults. If the list of characteristics above describe your work environment, you are likely to start exhibiting those same characteristics. And if you bring those home with you, your family will start to reflect those same traits.
Fortunately, if you want to break that cycle, we also have a list of what to expect in a healthy, positive and Godly environment:
Not too difficult to tell your boss’s allegiance, is it? And if you’ve gotten sucked into the first list, you can decide today to move to the other camp. Your words, actions, and attitudes easily show which “boss” you are following today. And if you’ve got a boss who won’t change, it may be time to start a new job search.