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At 46 years old, I am doing work that I love for the first time in my life. I have discovered my purpose and passion and all the great things that go along with that. If you are unhappy in your current work situation, maybe I can help shed some light by sharing a little of the process that I went through to get to where I am today.
I have worked in a high performance, team based work system for 20 years. I was fortunate that throughout those twenty years I was able to do many different projects that allowed for enough diversity to keep me interested in my work, but I always felt something was missing.
Ever since I can remember I have wanted to be an entrepreneur and enjoy all the benefits that went along with that life. Yet, it has always eluded me. It wasn’t until a few years ago that I got extremely interested in self-awareness and personal development that things started to change. I have always been interested in these, but not at the level I am now. Now that I have discovered who I am, my life has taken an interesting shift.
If you are unhappy in your current job, before you start sending out the resume’s, STOP, and consider a few things. Do you know why you are unhappy with your job? Is it the boss? Is it the co-workers? Is it the customers? Is it the work itself? We need to first know what is causing our unhappiness. Is it outside influences causing our unhappiness? This is the first step. Figure out “the why” in why we are unhappy.
If we don’t discover the source of our unhappiness then we will just move from job to job to job searching for happiness that can’t be found. Let’s get really honest with ourselves. Look inside and answer these questions honestly.
- Am I doing work that is truly enjoyable?
- Do I lose myself in my work?
- Do I look forward to my work?
If you answered “NO” to these, then you may want to look for different work that you enjoy, but don’t quit your J-O-B without a P-L-A-N. We need to understand our strengths and weaknesses, our purpose and passions. A good starting point is taking the DISC profile or hiring a career coach to help us pinpoint these answers.
If you love the work you are doing, but are still unhappy then we need to address this issue in a similar fashion. Narrow down your reason for your unhappiness. Is it a toxic environment, a co-worker, or boss? If these are all “NO”, then you need to look inside and begin a self-awareness journey. Self-awareness is a clear understanding of who we are, what we believe, our core values, our faith, our limitations, our strengths, our weaknesses, our passions, and our purpose.
If we do not have a strong self-awareness then we may not be living an authentic life, which will lead to unhappiness that we blame on outside circumstances. Many people go through life blaming everything around them for their unhappiness. This can lead to unnecessary actions including divorce, job hopping, addictions, and other self-destructive habits. Choose not to be one of them, dig your heels in and take a stand to be happy. Find your authentic self.
A few tips on beginning self-awareness are to pay attention to your attitude, emotions, habits, and everyday behavior. This is called mindfulness. Being mindful of ourselves will begin to crack open the door to what makes us tick and what ticks us off. Be objective to your behavior in all situations. Then ask yourself, “Is it my perception of this situation valid?” What made me think/feel this way? Try to discover what triggers your negativity or frustrations. You may find that the problem is how you perceive a situation instead of the situation itself being negative. This begins the road of self-discovery and happiness. It takes some time and effort for this all to unfold, but it is much better than the other options.
Jumping from job to job because you are unhappy can lead to a vicious, miserable cycle. If we don’t know ourselves well enough to know what makes us happy, then life will be a constant struggle. Life is not meant to be a constant struggle. Knowing ourselves intimately is the key to finding happiness in everything we do, including our jobs.