In the Escaping Shawshank experience we all went into prison cells – to think about what is holding us back. Many of us tapped into memories of “failing” at something and how we are allowing the feelings associated with that to hold us back from attempting anything new.
It reminded me of the old 1998 movie,You’ve Got Mail with Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan. In the movie Joe (Tom) opens one of his big bookstores right across the street from Kathleen’s (Meg) quaint little The Shop Around the Corner. When it became clear Kathleen’s little bookstore could not survive the competition she decided to close the doors.
In reminiscing with her elderly bookkeeper Birdie she lamented that she felt like a failure. To which Birdie replied,
“You’re not a failure. You’re doing the bravest thing possible. You are daring to imagine you could have a different life.”
Whoa – how’s that for a different perspective. Now think about a time when you felt like a failure. Maybe it’s right now – you’re thinking about quitting your job, your business is tanking, you have not lost the weight you wanted to shed, or your relationship with your spouse is still dismal. If you draw a line in the sand and say you’re not going to do that anymore, you’re not failing; you are daring to imagine you could have a different life. And if you can’t imagine a different life you’ll continue to think about what you just came from – and will likely repeat it again.
Resource: The first step in identifying work where you’ll be successful, a business that “fits” you, and how you can build loving relationships, is to first understand yourself. If you haven’t yet taken the DISC profile, check out this overview of the personality styles. It could open the door to a different life – a life that you are beginning to imagine.
Maybe you’ve seen a marriage you would like to model. You want to supercharge your own relationship to one of mutual support and encouragement. Here are some tips to get you started: 48days.com/marriage
Remember, when you decide to make a change: