As quarterback of the San Francisco 49ers, Joe Montana led his team to four Super Bowl victories. He has been elected into the Pro Football Hall of Fame and was named by Sports Illustrated as the greatest football player of the past 50 years.
Here’s an excerpt from his book, The Winning Spirit:
“As I have watched my own children compete in youth sports over the years, I have noticed a growing tendency to deliver pats on the head, to say, ‘Good job, everyone won today.’ And hand out participation ribbons to all who got out of bed and made it to the game. That’s not the way I was raised, and I don’t dispense that message in my role as a parent. I think it’s unfair for a parent to be an uncritical observer of a young person wanting to improve and play at a higher level. As a parent, you need to be not just a cheerleader but a coach. And I believe it is wrong to tell the next generation that they will be congratulated for simply showing up.”
As a coach I have seen many clients who have come from previous coaches or counselors who simply patted them on the back and told them they were doing fine. Yet what these people were looking for was someone to challenge them to a higher level of success. I have told a gentleman he had an obnoxious habit of interrupting, a lady that she had the most hideous laugh I had ever heard, and a young salesman that he used “basically” 19 times in a 3-minute conversation. When people are being “coached” they expect to be told how they can improve.
Webster’s dictionary defines “coach” as “to instruct or train.” I see too many counselors and coaches who are primarily empathic listeners and cheerleaders. If you are a “coach” make sure you don’t shortchange your clients by cheering them on when you should be helping them redirect or eliminate a behavior.
“As iron sharpens iron, a friend sharpens a friend.” Proverbs 27:17 NLT
A true coach changes lives. Check out what Aaron Walker says about becoming a coach:
On May 12-13th, the Sanctuary is going to be full of people who are ready to “coach” people to success – including their own. In this two-day Coaching with Excellence event I’ll address:
- How is a coach different from a counselor, mentor, or consultant?
- How do you identify yourself as a coach?
- What about degrees, licensure, and certification?
- What effective resources does 48 Days offer to make your coaching business profitable?
You’re hear from others who started their coaching success here – like Jevonnah Ellison, Aaron Walker, and Kent Julian. We’ll feed you some of the best southern cooking you’ve ever experienced, show you how we’ve created the life we love, and maybe even get in a game or two of cornhole.
Save your seat now – Coaching with Excellence May 12-13th