I’m a kept man

Yesterday I heard a caller on The Dave Ramsey Show.  The caller said he had just quit his job after ten years and this was his first day as a free man.  Dave asked why he quit and the guy said his wife had just completed her PhD, gotten a terrific job and he no longer had to work.  REALLY? Does that strike anyone else as pretty bizarre?  Can we make some assumptions about this guy? He was working only for the paycheck. He’s ignoring the Biblical mandate to provide for his family. He hasn’t figured out the connection between … Read More

Break out of narrow thinking

In the new book Decisive by Dan and Chip Heath, they describe a trap we all face.  Psychologists call it “narrow framing.”  It’s our tendency to chose between two options – overlooking the full range of possibilities available to us. Let’s take a common situation.  You hate your job but look at the options like this: Be responsible and keep the job – no one would quit in this economy Quit the stinking job – prove your mother-in-law right and have no income Don’t assume too quickly that there are only two or even three possibilities. In No More Dreaded … Read More

Should I risk taking a new job now?

A podcast listener asks: Dan, I’ve made the mistake of staying in a job that was comfortable: good pay, close to home and seniority position. Now, I feel it’s too risky for me to start something new: I just adopted twins and I also have a 3 year old at home.  Would it be smarter to park here at the comfy job for a while or do I charge forward and accept a new offer? I work as a software programmer and the new opportunity sounds great to me, in terms of professional challenge.   On the other hand, I don’t … Read More

Persistent – but off track?

I’ve always been a big proponent of being persistent.  We hear the famous Calvin Coolidge quotation: “Nothing in the world can take the place of Persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan ‘Press On’ has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race.” I see people who give up – just short of what would have likely been success.  However, I also see people … Read More