Does God want me to “swallow poison” every day?

does God want me to suffer

Patrice wants to know why she has been unable to develop her passion, and the only jobs available are ones that she hates. Here’s part of her lengthy letter: “After everything I’ve been through I’m afraid that somehow, God’s will for me is actually not to pursue the sole vocational passion He appears to have put in my heart, but to do this office work that feels like I’m swallowing poison every day.  Maybe I’m projecting my family’s patterns onto God – child abuse survivors do that, probably even more so than those with healthier backgrounds – but I’m afraid that, counterintuitive … Read More

If Dolly can you can

There is an osprey couple about 30 feet from the deck on the beach house we are enjoying in Nokomis Beach, Florida.  The male and female are busy maintaining their nest.  These magnificent birds with their six-foot wing span are amazing to watch as they appear to be free and at ease, even while completing this important task.  As is so often the case, I think we can observe things in nature that should encourage us. In No More Dreaded Mondays I outlined the 5 Predictors of Success that we see time and time again in very successful people.  Those … Read More

Be safe and bored or reach for the gold

Recently I watched the 2007 movie Lions for Lambs.  In this movie a brilliant but apathetic student asks his professor (Robert Redford), “Is there any difference in trying but failing, and simply failing to try – if you end up in the same place anyway?”  He was attempting to justify taking the safe route; never really taking a stand or trying anything big. What do you think?  Do you cringe at trying something big because of the possibility of failure?  What if you tried for the promotion but failed to get it, started a business but lost your investment, or … Read More

Tabula Rasa – the power of a clean slate

Tabula Rasa — This is actually a Latin term meaning “clean slate.”  People who end up being successful usually view change differently than the average person. It was a cold December night in West Orange, New Jersey. Thomas Edison’s factory was humming with activity. Work was proceeding on a variety of fronts as the great inventor was trying to turn more of his dreams into practical realities.  Edison’s plant, made of concrete and steel, was deemed “fireproof”. As you may have already guessed, it wasn’t! On that frigid night in 1914, the sky was lit up by a sensational blaze … Read More

Monday Prayer for Work

Monday Prayer for Work Lord, Help me to always give 100% at work….. 12% on Monday 23% on Tuesday 40% on Wednesday 20% on Thursday 5% on Friday Okay I know that’s not your plan.  You are likely one who always gives 100% to whatever you do.  We hear a lot about people who give 110%.  I know that sounds kinda cool but I’ll settle for just a solid 100% on whatever needs to be done.  Frankly, when I hear that someone is giving 110% at work I fear he/she is perhaps borrowing that extra 10% from some other important … Read More

Tired of the same crappy lunch every day?

In one of my all-time favorite Peanuts cartoons, Charlie Brown complains to Linus that every day his lunch is the same. When Linus asks Charlie Brown who makes his lunch, Charlie Brown says, “I do.” When it comes to the activities of our lives, most of us make our own lunches. So while there may be some comfort in sameness, if you want different results, you must do something differently.  If you’ve become a creature of habit, break some of your habits. Drive a different route to work, go to a new restaurant, visit a different church with your neighbors, donate … Read More

$.25 each – three for a dollar!

All the Cyber Monday specials today reminded me of this story: A grocer put up a sign that read “Eggplants, 25¢ ea.–three for a dollar.”  All day long, customers came in exclaiming: “Don’t be ridiculous! I should get four for a dollar!” Meekly the grocer capitulated and packaged four eggplants. The tailor next door had been watching these antics and finally asked the grocer, “Aren’t you going to fix the mistake on your sign?” “What mistake?” the grocer asked. “Before I put up that sign no one ever bought more than one eggplant.” Ashley has put together some great 48 … Read More

Are you as determined as Dolly?

In her autobiography titled Dolly, Dolly Parton says, “My high school was small. So during a graduation event, each of us got a chance to stand up and announce our plans for the future. ‘I’m going to junior college,’ one boy would say. ‘I’m getting married and moving to Maryville,’ a girl would follow. When my turn came, I said, ‘I’m going to Nashville to become a star.’ The entire place erupted in laughter. I was stunned. Somehow, though, that laughter instilled in me an even greater determination to realize my dream. I might have crumbled under the weight of the hardships … Read More

Fire Yourself

Here’s part of a recent letter from a reader describing his work situation: “Dan, I work as a rural letter carrier . . . I have been at the same job, in the same Post Office, in the same town for twenty years. I hate the job! Have hated it for fifteen years or so. Have hated it with a passion since my second son was born. It steals my life. I’ve stood it as long as I can. If I don’t get out I’ll drown or explode.” Here’s my suggestion. Why don’t you fire yourself today? No, I’m not … Read More