Not Happy in Your Job? Be the Chicken not the Egg

Here’s a note from Jill –

“I am 33 years old and have nothing to show for it. Nine years after college, I have no job, no career. Just a couple useless degrees. I studied fashion design, then graphic design. I’ve had around 5 jobs in that time lasting 6 months each. The jobs I’ve had have been crappy. The people in all of them were hateful and toxic. I’m starting to think the typical workplace isn’t for me.  All the doors seem shut for me. I still don’t know if I have any talent. I’m starting to doubt my self-worth. I’ve read your books, but nothing has clicked yet.  I really can’t seem to get a job? Not even a crappy job, what do I do? Please Dan, help me.”

Jill – let’s be brutally honest here.  All the jobs you’ve had have been crappy and all the people Angry Womanyou’ve worked with were hateful and toxic?

What’s the common denominator in all of these situations – YOU.

Happiness and contentment are very much an inner game – not just a result of circumstances.  If your happiness depends on the circumstances around you, you are always very vulnerable.

Become a person people want on their team.  Be a happy, enthusiastic person. Smile readily, compliment other people on their work.  Ask people about their interests and then listen intently.  The quality of your work will improve and other companies will be recruiting you.

Now ultimately you have to be able to produce work that has value.  And whether you do that as an employee, a free-lancer, or by standing on the street doing caricatures  is not important. The key is that you are able to produce something that people will pay for.

I’m sending you a fresh copy of the latest version of 48 Days to the Work You Love – with the audio CD “Is Your Job Your Calling?”  A lot of what I talk about in there is becoming a person of value – that’s 85% of the process.  Having degrees or training is maybe 10-15%.

Jill, you can change your success immediately – read on:


Here’s another note – the day before – from Terry in Orlando, FL.

“Hi Dan, Reading 48 Days and No More Dreaded Mondays gave me a desperately needed attitude adjustment toward my job and life in general.

I started giving an extra 110%, all while focusing on the great aspects of my job instead of the toxic negativity, which had affected all areas of my life. Shortly thereafter, I unexpectedly received a 10% off-season raise. My manager said that I was bringing a lot of value to the project and I deserved a boost. Three months later, I received a stellar performance review with an additional 5% pay increase. Thanks for sharing your words of wisdom to help me turn my life around.”

Same job, same boss – what changed.  Terry did.

When I crashed financially a few years ago it would have been tempting to point fingers at the bank that pulled my credit line, the “economy” that was at a low point, or the customers who were slow to pay.  But I knew all that would do is keep me down.  I wouldn’t hurt them nearly as much as I would hurt myself and my family.  I had to look at the guy in the mirror and decide to be a person others wanted to be around – in spite of my circumstances – and that lead to the incredible opportunities I enjoy today.


Don’t like your circumstances?  Change yourself and watch your circumstances change as well.

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