I find you very interesting – but not……………

In our last Coaching with Excellence conference we were talking about creating a trusting relationship before you can “coach” someone.  Participant Jerry Ford shared this thought:

If you are interesting, people will like you,

If you are interested, people will love you.

That seems to capture an important and far-reaching principle.  When someone spends 30 minutes telling you how they traveled to Africa and spent three weeks digging a fresh water well you may put them on your list of interesting friends.  But if another person follows up on your mention that you are looking for a job, asks you what your strongest talents are then and offers to introduce you to the hiring manager at their company, the feeling goes much deeper than just a friend.

When you have extra tickets to a U2 concert, do you want to give those to someone you find interesting or interested?

Would the five people who know you best describe you as interesting – or interested?

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