You keep your F – I’m keeping my dream

Most naysayers and dream kickers are at the bottom themselves. Find people who are already performing at the level at which you’d like to be for inspiration

When Monty Roberts was in high school, his teacher gave the class the assignment of writing about what they wanted to do when they grew up.  Monty wrote that he wanted to own a ranch and raise thoroughbred racehorses.  His teacher gave him an “F” and explained that the dream was unrealistic for a boy living in a camper in the back of a pickup truck.  He would never be able to make this a reality.  When he offered Monty the chance to rewrite his paper for a higher grade, Monty told him, “You keep your F; I’m keeping my … Read More

100% College Admission – how sad I am

I wrote this post 4 years ago, but was reminded once again, as at this time of year we’re seeing schools scrambling to brag about how many of their brilliant students are being admitted to fine colleges and universities.  And my feelings are stronger now than 4 years ago. ********************************************* Last Sunday on a leisure drive back from lunch, Joanne and I passed one of the most prestigious private high schools in our area.  A big 10ft banner was proudly posted at the front entrance stating: “100% College Admission for our Seniors – again.” I’ll have to admit I cringed upon seeing that.  … Read More

Is your house a safe place?

Dan shares a look at what makes a home a safe place where animals, kids and adults can feel safe.

I went to lunch with my neighbor Bill yesterday and we started talking about the gentleman who used to live in the house next door. I told Bill about talking with my previous neighbor (Bob) on a bright Sunday morning and how he had spent the day planting watermelons – although the doctors had just told him he had 3-6 weeks to live.  Well, that turned out to be pretty accurate.  Bob died on another Sunday, just 41 days after that conversation and just one day short of six weeks. The picture here is of the beautiful floral display at his memorial service.  Notice the … Read More

I got on the wrong boat

I got on the wrong boat - 3 things to consider when finding your purpose

Recently I received the pre-coaching information profile from a 40-yr-old teacher.  He wrote, “I feel like I got on the wrong boat, and now my life is half over.”   Wow – what a painful statement about moving along in this journey called life.  Are you clear on where you are going?  Or on what your purpose here is?  If not, why not?  How can we find fulfillment, peace and meaning without being clear on our “mission” in life? In sharing this with my wife, Joanne, she paused and then related her absolute confidence in knowing what she was sent here … Read More

No degrees – just a Mom

As we are headed into Mother’s Day I was reminiscing about my own mother. She never had a job title, but she left a legacy.

As we are headed into Mother’s Day I was reminiscing about my own mother.  At 88, her death was sudden, but not unexpected.  She and Dad were sitting quietly together on Friday evening after a day of activities together.  They were married for 62 years.  For most of those years, Dad was the pastor of the little Mennonite church in Johnsville, Ohio. Mom never had a job title outside our home. VP, CFO, and CEO were not attractive to her.  Her formal education ended with the 8th grade.  But her life touched thousands.  At her funeral we displayed a few … Read More

Don’t hide what feeds your soul

What are you doing to brig beauty into your life

As I was listening to my friend Chris McCluskey’s podcast on Worship, Work and Play, I heard him reference this old adage: “If I had but two loaves of bread I would sell one of them and buy White Hyacinths to feed my soul.” – Elbert Hubbard (1856-1915) Why does that capture us so?  And why does it even make any sense?  Surely if you were down to only two loaves of bread the responsible thing to do would be to guard them carefully and ration them out as food for your family. And yet a life without beauty is not … Read More

Don’t chase the snake

Don't Chase the Snake -- A Look at Employee Revenge

When I was 10 years old, one of my best friends was Bob Queen.  One afternoon while exploring the back acreage of our farms, a snake bit Bob. Seeing the snake slither off, my immediate response was to run after the snake, track him down and repay the scoundrel for what he had done to my friend.  Bob, however, being a much wiser hunter and outdoorsman, quickly pulled out his knife, lanced the bite, sucked the blood out and spit out the poison.  The focus for him was on his own well being, not on repaying the snake.  How often … Read More

Is it okay to lie on a resume?

Study finds lies on 42.7% of resumes!

We’ve all heard the stories about how a taxi driver was a “transportation logistics manager” on his resume and the greeter at WalMart becomes a “human relations director” in the next job search.  Now some people are contending that lying on a resume is so common that it’s necessary to get the better jobs.  In a new study, results show that after six months of checking out job titles, dates of employment and educational backgrounds of applicants, major misrepresentations were found in 42.7 percent of resumes they reviewed.  Lying has become so common, there’s even a website to help people … Read More

Work harder to kill your marriage

Should you work so hard that you give up the time needed for feeding your soul and having a meaningful life? Dan Miller says no!

Here’s a frightening statement.  I read this week where a sales manager was berating his staff for missing their sales quotas.  He screamed at them, “If your marriage is not in trouble, it’s probably because you are not spending enough time on the road doing your job!”  Okay, now we’ve identified the idiot in the room.  How would you respond to that comment from your boss?  Is that the price to pay for “success” at work?  I hope not!  If you’re not making deposits for success in your personal relationships, physical health, and spiritual well-being, no amount of work success … Read More

My myopic pursuit of the almighty dollar

My myopic pursuit of the almighty dollar

The lead-in question on the information requested when I coach with someone personally is this:  “Briefly describe your current work situation.”  Here is a classic response I received from a 28-yr-old:  “Antithetical to my personal and professional expectations.  And unfulfilling on multiple levels:  Lack of meaning and purpose; a myopic pursuit of the almighty dollar; a parasitic and never ending voyage into the shallow waters of avarice.”  Wow – this is a powerful and eloquent statement of being off track.  And of the understanding that money is never enough compensation for investing one’s time and energy. This young man continued:  “Because of the … Read More