But I had no choice

You’ve heard the story about a man riding a horse at breakneck speed.  It appears he’s going someplace very important.  A man standing along the roadside shouts, “Where are you going?”  To which the rider yells back, “I don’t know.   Ask the horse.” This seems to be essentially the story I’m hearing from lots of people today.  They’re riding the horse of circumstances, their habits or other people’s expectations.  If that describes you, it’s time to grab the reins and move your life in the direction you really want to go. I’m currently working with a very prominent lady – … Read More

Boomerang Kids

Yes, that’s really the term for kids that go off to college or the great job – only to return to the safety net of Mom and Dad at some point.  I recently had a May graduate describe this issue: “I live at home with my parents which isn’t exactly conducive to building a social life. The rent’s hard to beat, the food is great and we even have this great laundry service where you put your clothes on the floor and this magical fairy washes and presses them, but I’m a little restless and frustrated, especially since I haven’t found … Read More

Congratulations – you’re fired

“The company where I’ve worked for 30 years will be closing in March 2017. If I stay until the end I will receive a 6-month severance. How can I effectively use the next six months to position myself for a new career, and collect the severance – or is this the right approach? Thanks!”  Jeff Congratulations on getting a 6-month advance notice and then a 6-month severance.  For a company that’s closing, you are being given a very generous exit plan.  Yes, I absolutely recommend you stay where you are and collect the severance.  Think about it – for the next six months … Read More

Please beat me

I once had the opportunity to meet (Apple) Dan Miller, an Amish neighbor of my Dad.  He told me that years ago Dad had complained to him that his apple trees looked beautiful but weren’t producing any apples.  Known far and wide for his apples, (Apple) Dan told my Dad to go home, grab a hammer and give his trees a severe beating around the trunk.  He said they needed to have something wake them up – that life had been too easy and they needed a challenge to come alive.  While this seemed counter to the careful fertilizing, watering and … Read More

Not till God tells me………

“Dan! I’m feeling like I’m in a dead-end situation, but I’m not going to move until God tells me to do so!” I received this note recently from a reader – and it represents thousands of similar notes I’ve received over the last 20 years. The writer continues, “Dan, I’m miserable, frustrated, anxious, sick, exhausted, bored, nervous, worried, concerned, restless, fearful, frightened, apprehensive, troubled, upset, angry, exasperated, incensed, infuriated, discouraged, aggravated, maddened, offended, disappointed, distressed, anguished, tormented, suffering, afflicted, suffering, persecuted” – well, you get the idea.  But he’s not going to move until God himself “tells” him to. Just … Read More

Do you know why you’re here?

Is it true that most people know their “calling?” Peter Drucker spent most of the last 10 years of his life working with non-profits, much of that with mega church leaders. In the book Drucker & Me, here’s what he told his friend Bob Bufford about “calling.” “I am convinced that many, if not most, serious believers at some level understand what their calling is, but that understanding may be buried under years of busyness and distraction.  Yet, that suppressed sense of calling stays with them for years.” As a life coach I’ve have talked to lots of you who … Read More

Are entrepreneurs born or developed?

Recently on  my podcast, listener Paul Vandermill asked, “Can becoming an entrepreneur be a progression rather than a predisposition?”  Really, are entrepreneurs born, or do those traits develop over time? I love that question.  Is a person just born an entrepreneur or can anyone learn to be successful on their own?  There is no “right” or “wrong” about being an entrepreneur.  But you need to ask yourself if it is a fit for you.  Here’s an overview. DO YOU HAVE WHAT IT TAKES TO BE AN ENTREPRENEUR? Do you have what it takes to do something on your own – … Read More

Is this outrageous or just cool?

I recently heard about one of our local residents who has just purchased a pretty cool car.  Being a car guy, that always gets my attention.  In this case the local resident is Keith Urban who was spotted parking his $2.7 million Bugatti Veyron as he showed up for rehearsals.  Now before you go crazy about how obscene this is let’s put in perspective.  Yeah, Keith lives in the same county as I do so right off the bat, there’s the additional 9.25% sales tax – or another $249,750. Keith has made no secret of his love of cars.  Just a few … Read More

Tabula Rasa

This is actually a Latin term meaning “clean slate.”  People who end up successful usually view change differently than the average person. It was a cold December night in West Orange, New Jersey. Thomas Edison’s factory was humming with activity. Work was proceeding on a variety of fronts as the great inventor was trying to turn more of his dreams into practical realities.  Edison’s plant, made of concrete and steel, was deemed “fireproof”. As you may have already guessed, it wasn’t! On that frigid night in 1914, the sky was lit up by a sensational blaze that had burst through … Read More

And the times, they are a’changin

Change we can count on – but that doesn’t mean opportunities are decreasing.  True, not all change is progress, but all progress does require change.  Embrace the change by positioning yourself for new options. I recently worked with a young lady who had lost her job, making in the mid 70s.  Panicked and convinced she could never find another job in that income range, she had decided she would have to start her own business.  However, after identifying her unique “areas of competence” I advised against that and encouraged her to do a creative job search.  In a short period … Read More