Is your house a safe place?

Dan MillerLoving Relationships, Personal Development2 Comments

I went to lunch with my neighbor Bill yesterday and we started talking about the gentleman who used to live in the house next door. I told Bill about talking with my previous neighbor (Bob) on a bright Sunday morning and how he had spent the day planting watermelons – although the doctors had just told him he had 3-6 weeks to live.  Well, that turned out to be pretty accurate.  Bob died on another Sunday, just 41 days after that conversation and just one day short of six weeks. The picture here is of the beautiful floral display at his memorial service.  Notice the … Read More

I got on the wrong boat

Dan MillerInterviewing, Job Search, Just a Job0 Comments

Recently I received the pre-coaching information profile from a 40-yr-old teacher.  He wrote, “I feel like I got on the wrong boat, and now my life is half over.”   Wow – what a painful statement about moving along in this journey called life.  Are you clear on where you are going?  Or on what your purpose here is?  If not, why not?  How can we find fulfillment, peace and meaning without being clear on our “mission” in life? In sharing this with my wife, Joanne, she paused and then related her absolute confidence in knowing what she was sent here … Read More

Make people question your sanity

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dreams

Make people question your sanity If everyone in your family and workplace commends you on how well you’re doing, maybe you’re not thinking big enough.  Big ideas and goals always attract criticism from small thinkers.  Don’t be afraid to step out with plans that make people think you’re crazy. Questions from this week’s Podcast: We’ve saved $200k and are debating between buying a house or quitting our unfulfilling jobs to travel for 6-12 months as an opportunity like this might not present itself again. What would be a good class or conference to attend to work on my leadership skills … Read More

Don’t hide what feeds your soul

Dan MillerEvents1 Comment

As I was listening to my friend Chris McCluskey’s podcast on Worship, Work and Play, I heard him reference this old adage: “If I had but two loaves of bread I would sell one of them and buy White Hyacinths to feed my soul.” – Elbert Hubbard (1856-1915) Why does that capture us so?  And why does it even make any sense?  Surely if you were down to only two loaves of bread the responsible thing to do would be to guard them carefully and ration them out as food for your family. And yet a life without beauty is not … Read More

Don’t chase the snake

Dan MillerFailure, Finding Passion, Job Search, Negotiating Salary2 Comments

When I was 10 years old, one of my best friends was Bob Queen.  One afternoon while exploring the back acreage of our farms, a snake bit Bob. Seeing the snake slither off, my immediate response was to run after the snake, track him down and repay the scoundrel for what he had done to my friend.  Bob, however, being a much wiser hunter and outdoorsman, quickly pulled out his knife, lanced the bite, sucked the blood out and spit out the poison.  The focus for him was on his own well being, not on repaying the snake.  How often … Read More

Is it okay to lie on a resume?

Dan MillerInterviewing, Just a Job7 Comments

We’ve all heard the stories about how a taxi driver was a “transportation logistics manager” on his resume and the greeter at WalMart becomes a “human relations director” in the next job search.  Now some people are contending that lying on a resume is so common that it’s necessary to get the better jobs.  In a new study, results show that after six months of checking out job titles, dates of employment and educational backgrounds of applicants, major misrepresentations were found in 42.7 percent of resumes they reviewed.  Lying has become so common, there’s even a website to help people … Read More

Work harder to kill your marriage

Dan MillerFinancial Freedom, Loving Relationships18 Comments

Here’s a frightening statement.  I read this week where a sales manager was berating his staff for missing their sales quotas.  He screamed at them, “If your marriage is not in trouble, it’s probably because you are not spending enough time on the road doing your job!”  Okay, now we’ve identified the idiot in the room.  How would you respond to that comment from your boss?  Is that the price to pay for “success” at work?  I hope not!  If you’re not making deposits for success in your personal relationships, physical health, and spiritual well-being, no amount of work success … Read More

My myopic pursuit of the almighty dollar

Dan MillerFinancial Freedom3 Comments

The lead-in question on the information requested when I coach with someone personally is this:  “Briefly describe your current work situation.”  Here is a classic response I received from a 28-yr-old:  “Antithetical to my personal and professional expectations.  And unfulfilling on multiple levels:  Lack of meaning and purpose; a myopic pursuit of the almighty dollar; a parasitic and never ending voyage into the shallow waters of avarice.”  Wow – this is a powerful and eloquent statement of being off track.  And of the understanding that money is never enough compensation for investing one’s time and energy. This young man continued:  “Because of the … Read More

Does the world really need my contribution?

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Mother Teresa, stand out

Does the world really need my contribution? If you have a talent for technology, art, music or brain surgery, does the world really care?  Is your contribution meaningful if twenty other people can do the same thing?  Let’s look at how to make yourself stand out in a world of sameness.   Should I move to a job that pays less and requires more hours but is a better fit? Does the world need my contribution? Should I give two weeks notice or just quit on payday? Am I being cold-hearted and unloving thinking that the homeless and/or poor should … Read More

Does the 48 Days Job Search process really work?

Dan MillerJob Search11 Comments

I received this note two days ago: Hi, Dan, I have read your book, 48 days, and I wanted to know does your job search process really work? I have been told that approach, mailing through the mail is old school, takes too long, people toss letters like that in the trash, email is faster, people keep emails as oppose to paper, etc. I have been out of work for 4 months now. I am totally petrified. I have tried networking, passing out my resume to family and friends, etc., and still nothing. I am not a fan of picking … Read More