No one will mentor me

A recent podcast listener says my advice doesn’t work in Atlanta.

“Good Evening Dan Miller, I listen to your Podcast show every Friday. I have taken your advice but it does not seem to work in Atlanta, Georgia. I have tried time after time to acquire successful Mentors but most of the time I’m told No or they don’t have the time. Most people will not share any wisdom or knowledge on how to become more successful in life. Most of the time people judge people based on the news channel here.  I know there’s more to life than getting paid 11 dollars an hour. My question is can you be my Mentor or can you give me some ideas on how to become more successful in life.”   Connor


Well Connor, I’ve got great news.  I just lined up a whole lot of really smart people who are willing to mentor you.  And you don’t have to wait or even ask permission.  I’ve checked it out and they have proven they are eager to pour out their principles of success – for you – right now.

Let’s get you started:

Ten Steps to being Mentored – and Becoming Rich

  1.         Read (or listen to) at least 12 great books – I have an Prime membership with unlimited Free Two-Day Shipping – and buy books liberally – and encourage you to do the same.  However, if you feel you cannot invest even small dollars in your education then check them out of the library. (See complete list here – Dan’s Reading List)

I know of no way to more quickly change your level of success than to read good books.

Old Classics like

  • Think and Grow Rich
  • The Magic of Thinking Big
  • How to Win Friends and Influence People
  • The Strangest Secret

Timeless Greats

  • Thou Shall Prosper
  • A Whole New Mind
  • How to think like Leonardo da Vinci
  • The Success Principles

More recent titles

  • Take the Stairs
  • Linchpin
  • The Compound Effect
  • The Art of Non-Conformity

 2.       Attend 3 or 4 seminars

Chose what you’d like – but go with an open mind.  I attend a lot of seminars each year.  My goal is not to change my life with any ONE seminar, but to learn at least one great idea that I can use from each one.

“Man’s mind, once stretched by a new idea, never regains its original dimensions.”  ~Oliver Wendell Holmes

3.       Subscribe to at least two great magazines

You can get any magazine on line if you prefer.  I still enjoy holding the magazine, turning the pages and returning to them again and again.

“Learning is a treasure that will follow its owner everywhere.”  ~Chinese Proverb


4.       Listen to 3 or 4 informational podcasts  & read 3 or 4 blogs each week

You may be an audio or print learner.  No right or wrong – just select what works for you.  The free information is priceless. 

  1. Dan Miller  How to find or create Work you Love
  2. Guy Kawasaki   How to Change the World
  3. Seth Godin How to be Remarkable
  4. Chris Guillebeau Unconventional Strategies for Life, Work and Travel
  5. Jon Acuff   Stuff Christians Like
  6. Mike Hyatt  Intentional Leadership
  7. EntrepreneurOnFire – John Dumas
  8. Eventual Millionaire – Jaime Tardy


5.       Get involved in a social networking community like

I’m also a member of  and and FreeAgentAcademy.  Find a couple where you can identify with the group – then get involved.  Contribute, ask questions and give advice.  You’ll find your center of influence will grow rapidly. 

  1. Start your own blog  (WordPress)  It’s free on WordPress or you can just jump into the community at
  2. Write and then comment on others’ blogs
  3. Ask questions – seek advice


6.  Reach out to help someone else

These are people around the world who are committed to living a better story.  Helping them will help you feel connected to a larger life than what you have now.  And it will likely cost you $0 since 98% of the loans are repaid.  You can do this over and over.    I recently loaned $50 to a guy in Ecuador who is an auto mechanic and wanted to expand his tool supply.  And then I made another loan to a lady in Peru who has her own little Laundromat.  She has two washing machines now and allows the village women to come in and do their laundry.  She wants to add two more machines to expand her little business.  I saw the loans being repaid with amounts like $3.47 a month.  Both loans have now been totally repaid and can provide those funds for others finding their own success.  I enjoy being part of stories like this.

  1. Or you can go to and provide a goat and 2 chickens for $100.  You’ll be giving a precious start to a family that is looking to improve their lives.
  2. Volunteer for a Habitat for Humanity house project
  3. Mentor an ex-felon who needs a hand up (Leaving the CocoonMen of Valor)


7.       Acquire at least one new skill this year

Each year I select an area of interest – having nothing to do with business or making money.  Purely for the “education.”  Imagine that.

  1. Photography
  2. Martial arts
  3. Astronomy
  4. Our Spiritual heritage
  5. Birds in your local area
  6. Learn a new language
  7. Take the Drawing onthe right side of the brain (Betty Edwards) class.
  8. Start a book discussion  or Mastermind group
  9. Get a vocational degree in something you can use immediately

 “Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty.”  ~Henry Ford


8.       Become comfortable with your presentation skills

No matter what your career or business you must be comfortable presenting your ideas.  It will do wonders for your confidence and self-esteem.  You will find it easier to complete a sales transaction, have conversations with family and friends, and find success in your career.

  1. Join Toastmasters
  2. Take the Dale Carnegie Human Relations course
  3. Teach a Sunday School class at your church
  4. Volunteer to lead a book discussion at your local library


9.       Design your own health and fitness program

Success is never just about making money.  If you deplete your physical resources you will fail at everything else.  Make sure you are making deposits of success in this area every day.

  1. Join a club
  2. Design your own plan
  3. Read two great nutrition books
  4. Control your diet
  5. Make consistent good choices


10.   Plan two trips this year

Many people think they cannot afford to travel.  Joanne and I continued to travel even through our toughest times financially.  I’ve been treating her to Christmastime in Chicago for over 20 years now.  Direct flights from Nashville used to be $69 round trip (a little more now).  And few people travel on business the week of Christmas so 4-star hotels are cheap and easy to get.  Typically I have used PriceLine to put in my bid of about $79 a night.  But just do something that excites you.  Be creative.  Joanne and I often go downtown Nashville and just pretend we’re tourists.  We walk through the classic cathedrals, over the unique pedestrian bridges, and visit the art displays. 

  1. Off-season (Chicago at Christmas time)
  2. You can swap houses with someone anywhere in the world:  
  3. You can rent a unique place from the owner (like a cottage in Ireland for $280/wk)

Vacation Rentals by Owner


As soon as you start anywhere on this list, a couple things will happen:

  1. You will separate yourself from about 98% of the people around you.  You will “see” more and “expect” more and Dan & Seth Godinnew and better opportunities will appear.
  2. You’re self-confidence will increase.  You will be more attractive to your current and potential new employers.
  3. You will be more engaging with those real-life mentors you are approaching.  You will talk with more knowledge, enthusiasm, boldness and confidence – and those characteristics will make people more willing to spend time with you.

You are in the driver’s seat.  You don’t need to wait on anyone or ask permission.  Incidentally, this is exactly the process I used for many years before I had the privilege of actually meeting mentors like Zig Ziglar, Mark Victor Hansen, Ken Blanchard, Les Brown, Brian Tracy, Stephen Covey, Seth Godin, Rabbi Daniel Lapin, Michael Hyatt and Dave Ramsey in person.  You can do the same.

 “Never rest on your achievements; always nurture your potential.”  Denis Waitley

What have you other readers used as ways to be “mentored” by the greatest minds in the world?

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