Work harder to kill your marriage

Dan MillerFinancial Freedom, Loving Relationships18 Comments

Here’s a frightening statement.  I read this week where a sales manager was berating his staff for missing their sales quotas.  He screamed at them, “If your marriage is not in trouble, it’s probably because you are not spending enough time on the road doing your job!”  Okay, now we’ve identified the idiot in the room.  How would you respond to that comment from your boss?  Is that the price to pay for “success” at work?  I hope not!  If you’re not making deposits for success in your personal relationships, physical health, and spiritual well-being, no amount of work success … Read More

My myopic pursuit of the almighty dollar

Dan MillerFinancial Freedom3 Comments

The lead-in question on the information requested when I coach with someone personally is this:  “Briefly describe your current work situation.”  Here is a classic response I received from a 28-yr-old:  “Antithetical to my personal and professional expectations.  And unfulfilling on multiple levels:  Lack of meaning and purpose; a myopic pursuit of the almighty dollar; a parasitic and never ending voyage into the shallow waters of avarice.”  Wow – this is a powerful and eloquent statement of being off track.  And of the understanding that money is never enough compensation for investing one’s time and energy. This young man continued:  “Because of the … Read More

Does the 48 Days Job Search process really work?

Dan MillerJob Search11 Comments

I received this note two days ago: Hi, Dan, I have read your book, 48 days, and I wanted to know does your job search process really work? I have been told that approach, mailing through the mail is old school, takes too long, people toss letters like that in the trash, email is faster, people keep emails as oppose to paper, etc. I have been out of work for 4 months now. I am totally petrified. I have tried networking, passing out my resume to family and friends, etc., and still nothing. I am not a fan of picking … Read More

Artist or employee – maybe not an either or

Dan MillerFinding Passion, Wisdom meets Passion2 Comments

In preparation for Innovate, we are hearing from lots of “starving artists.”  You know the routine – you do a demo for your next album and hope to get a $100 gig at a local restaurant to buy groceries tomorrow.  Sell one painting for $300 then wonder how you’ll pay the rent this month.  Get your book published but then wonder how the $1.50 royalty is just compensation for all the work involved.  Not everyone tries to make a living from their “art.” The Story of T.S. Eliot T S Eliot was a British essayist, publisher, playwright, literary and social … Read More

I Quit!

Dan MillerFinancial Freedom, Just a Job1 Comment

Being April 1st, getting spring fever, seeing friends who have gone on to better things – these can all give you the urge to just turn in your resignation letter and just say “I Quit!”  Well, here’s help.  This site makes it very easy to play out that fantasy.  You can identify all the unique characteristics of your job, pinpoint your feelings about your boss, list your next career (aroma therapist) and in general, vent your job frustration.  Then hit “Write it” and you will see your instant customized Resignation Letter. Just make sure your current boss isn’t looking over your … Read More

You seem overqualified – why do you want this job?

Dan MillerJob Search6 Comments

I hear this as a frequent interview response – “You are overqualified.”  One legitimate concern is that right now a lot of people are settling for “survival” jobs, where any job is better than nothing.  A firm in St. Louis advertised for attorneys at $25,000/yr and was flooded with responses.  And then the legitimate concern is that you will keep looking and move on at the first better opportunity. Job Applicant Beware But be aware that being told you are “overqualified” may simply be a very nice way of telling you they simply don’t want you.  It’s hard to be upset … Read More

Are you in misery – move!

Dan MillerPersonal Development, Wisdom meets Passion7 Comments

This story about the dog and nail is one of the most commented-on stories in The Rudder of the Day. I heard a story from my friend Bob about an old dog lying on the front porch.  A neighbor approached the porch and could hear the dog softly moaning.  He asked his friend why the dog was whimpering.  And the owner said:  “He’s lying on a nail.” Predictably the man said, “Well, why doesn’t he move?” To which the owner replied, “I guess it doesn’t hurt quite that much yet.”  About a year after sharing this story in my weekly newsletter … Read More

Your Success is Guaranteed – If You Do This

Dan MillerFinancial Freedom, Personal Development, Wisdom meets Passion7 Comments

“Here is a rule that will guarantee your success – and possibly make you rich: Invest 3 percent of your income back into yourself.” That’s great advice from Brian Tracy. I’m going to show you the formula that can double or triple your income. Stocks, bonds and mutual funds are for conservative people who just want to protect the money they already have.  I will describe the only investing strategy I recommend if you want to exponentially increase your income. Invest in yourself. It will work for you whether you are employed or in your own business.  It will work … Read More

Don’t be a donkey- Make a decision

Dan MillerWisdom meets Passion18 Comments

In medieval logic there is the dilemma of a donkey that is placed equidistantly from two piles of food of equal size and quality. A perfectly symmetrical situation. If the behavior of the donkey is completely rational, it will have no reason to prefer one pile to the other and therefore cannot reach a decision over which pile to eat first.  So it remains in its original position and starves to death. This dilemma is called “Buridan’s ass.” I find many people immobilized by the challenge of choosing – even if both choices are apparently attractive.  Two great schools, two … Read More

Don’t let this happen

Dan MillerUncategorized1 Comment

If there is one consistent killer of securing a new job or starting a new business, it’s the poor self-esteem of the person doing the seeking.  Here are some telltale signs your self-esteem may be slipping: — Poor Time Management.  Missing appointments or being late for commitments. — Slacking off on Exercise program.  We take care of what we value and this is a way of saying, “I don’t care about myself.” — Dropping out of group involvement.  Don’t have time this week for school committee, church meetings, study group, etc. — Becoming a Couch Potato.   The worst time … Read More