Unemployed – or ready to launch?

Dan MillerJob Search, Just a Job, No More Mondays3 Comments

Losing a job can lead to anger, resentment, guilt and depression.  I once worked with a gentleman who lost his job and tried to reposition himself and do a job search. He quickly became discouraged after just a few days with no success.  Then he started hiding out from his wife, pretending to be doing a job search, while in reality he was going to the library to surf the Internet and read magazines.  He consoled himself in fast food and high sugar snacks and quickly added about 25 pounds.  This, in turn, made him self-conscious about his weight and … Read More

I’m a box of parts and nothing fits together

Dan MillerFinding Passion2 Comments

This is actually a quotation from one of my workshop attendees.  The young man went on to describe how he had the ability to do a lot of things but had never found a clear focus for his career.  This time of year we always see a great number of college graduates who present the same feeling.  “Now that I have this degree, what am I supposed to do?”  Having a degree does not necessarily lead a person in a clear direction.  That’s why we know that 10 years after graduation, 80% of college graduates are working in something totally … Read More

You keep your F – I’m keeping my dream

Dan MillerCoaching22 Comments

When Monty Roberts was in high school, his teacher gave the class the assignment of writing about what they wanted to do when they grew up.  Monty wrote that he wanted to own a ranch and raise thoroughbred racehorses.  His teacher gave him an “F” and explained that the dream was unrealistic for a boy living in a camper in the back of a pickup truck.  He would never be able to make this a reality.  When he offered Monty the chance to rewrite his paper for a higher grade, Monty told him, “You keep your F; I’m keeping my … Read More

100% College Admission – how sad I am

Dan MillerFinding Passion, No More Mondays, Uncategorized, Wisdom meets Passion11 Comments

I wrote this post 4 years ago, but was reminded once again, as at this time of year we’re seeing schools scrambling to brag about how many of their brilliant students are being admitted to fine colleges and universities.  And my feelings are stronger now than 4 years ago. ********************************************* Last Sunday on a leisure drive back from lunch, Joanne and I passed one of the most prestigious private high schools in our area.  A big 10ft banner was proudly posted at the front entrance stating: “100% College Admission for our Seniors – again.” I’ll have to admit I cringed upon seeing that.  … Read More

Is your house a safe place?

Dan MillerLoving Relationships, Personal Development2 Comments

I went to lunch with my neighbor Bill yesterday and we started talking about the gentleman who used to live in the house next door. I told Bill about talking with my previous neighbor (Bob) on a bright Sunday morning and how he had spent the day planting watermelons – although the doctors had just told him he had 3-6 weeks to live.  Well, that turned out to be pretty accurate.  Bob died on another Sunday, just 41 days after that conversation and just one day short of six weeks. The picture here is of the beautiful floral display at his memorial service.  Notice the … Read More

I got on the wrong boat

Dan MillerInterviewing, Job Search, Just a Job0 Comments

Recently I received the pre-coaching information profile from a 40-yr-old teacher.  He wrote, “I feel like I got on the wrong boat, and now my life is half over.”   Wow – what a painful statement about moving along in this journey called life.  Are you clear on where you are going?  Or on what your purpose here is?  If not, why not?  How can we find fulfillment, peace and meaning without being clear on our “mission” in life? In sharing this with my wife, Joanne, she paused and then related her absolute confidence in knowing what she was sent here … Read More

No degrees – just a Mom

Dan MillerUncategorized8 Comments

As we are headed into Mother’s Day I was reminiscing about my own mother.  At 88, her death was sudden, but not unexpected.  She and Dad were sitting quietly together on Friday evening after a day of activities together.  They were married for 62 years.  For most of those years, Dad was the pastor of the little Mennonite church in Johnsville, Ohio. Mom never had a job title outside our home. VP, CFO, and CEO were not attractive to her.  Her formal education ended with the 8th grade.  But her life touched thousands.  At her funeral we displayed a few … Read More

Don’t hide what feeds your soul

Dan MillerEvents1 Comment

As I was listening to my friend Chris McCluskey’s podcast on Worship, Work and Play, I heard him reference this old adage: “If I had but two loaves of bread I would sell one of them and buy White Hyacinths to feed my soul.” – Elbert Hubbard (1856-1915) Why does that capture us so?  And why does it even make any sense?  Surely if you were down to only two loaves of bread the responsible thing to do would be to guard them carefully and ration them out as food for your family. And yet a life without beauty is not … Read More

Don’t chase the snake

Dan MillerFailure, Finding Passion, Job Search, Negotiating Salary2 Comments

When I was 10 years old, one of my best friends was Bob Queen.  One afternoon while exploring the back acreage of our farms, a snake bit Bob. Seeing the snake slither off, my immediate response was to run after the snake, track him down and repay the scoundrel for what he had done to my friend.  Bob, however, being a much wiser hunter and outdoorsman, quickly pulled out his knife, lanced the bite, sucked the blood out and spit out the poison.  The focus for him was on his own well being, not on repaying the snake.  How often … Read More

Is it okay to lie on a resume?

Dan MillerInterviewing, Just a Job7 Comments

We’ve all heard the stories about how a taxi driver was a “transportation logistics manager” on his resume and the greeter at WalMart becomes a “human relations director” in the next job search.  Now some people are contending that lying on a resume is so common that it’s necessary to get the better jobs.  In a new study, results show that after six months of checking out job titles, dates of employment and educational backgrounds of applicants, major misrepresentations were found in 42.7 percent of resumes they reviewed.  Lying has become so common, there’s even a website to help people … Read More