What’s the difference between fear and courage?

Dan Miller —  June 20, 2014 — 15 Comments

1. How can I help the poor women in Kenya?
2. What was that book that made Joanne cry?
3. Using the 48 Days job search, how many times should I call before it becomes “problematic?”
4. Did the homeschooling benefits outweigh the costs with your kids?

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Quotation - 

Fear is wetting your pants and just standing there.  Courage is taking the next step with wet pants.”  Dan Sullivan

Other Notes:

Audiblepodcast.com/48days for free copy of


Giving: How Each of Us Can Change the World by Bill Clinton

Joanne’s book - Be Your Finest Art

Haves And Have-Nots   The NPR Ted Talk on - Is there a right and a wrong way to help someone?

Stop Helping Us - free ebook on A Call to Compassionately Move Beyond Charity

The book that made Joanne cry - When Pleasing Others Is Hurting You: Finding God’s Patterns for Healthy Relationships

48 Days Coaching Mastery Program

The Ultimate Advantage Cruise - Feb 2015

Coaching with Excellence - August 28-29

  • http://kimanziconstable.com/ kimanzi constable

    Great answers today Dan!

    • http://www.48Days.net Dan Miller

      Kimanzi – thanks so much. I always enjoy plowing through the amazing questions.

  • Gail Nelson

    Thanks Dan!! I wish more people would choose to homeschool – you mention that you’re a bit out of the loop on the resources, I’d be happy to help listeners in that area. I’m always ready to help answer questions for people just getting started and offer support when it’s needed.

    • http://www.48Days.net Dan Miller

      Thanks so much. I clicked through to your magazine and browsed around. Very nice. Yes, I’d be happy to pass along anything you can give me as resources.

      • Gail Nelson

        Sure thing! I’ll get my lists together – probably tonight or tomorrow.

  • Gretchen

    Dan- thank you SO much for the answer you gave to my question. It was really the sort of thing I was hoping for. I can’t wait to dig into all of the excellent resources you provided. Many thanks, Gretchen

    • http://www.48Days.net Dan Miller

      You are most welcome. I was concerned you might not be thrilled about the direction I took with that. I’m excited about the ways we can “help” responsibly.

      • Gretchen

        Dan- I WAS thrilled with the direction you took with that because that is where my hesitation was coming from. If I can ever be of help to you in any way, please don’t hesitate to ask. I’m a successful serial entrepreneur, now “retired” and itching to get back into something.

  • dano

    Dan as usual another outstanding program. Thanks for all that you do.

  • dano

    You truly are a winner in life an amazing man thanks for making it magic.

  • http://www.karyoberbrunner.com/ Kary Oberbrunner

    I listened to this one on the way back home to Ohio yesterday. Wow Dan. Amazing insight on the stages of helping people. Are we hurting or are we helping. Already sharing this concept with my tribe. Thanks!

    • http://www.48Days.net Dan Miller

      Kary – thanks for your comments. This is something I’m constantly studying – trying to learn for myself and help others with a workable plan.

  • http://www.davidicalhiphop.com Apostle Ricardo Reason Butler

    Great podcast and theme with it. I just downloaded and read that book “Stop Helping Us: A Call to Compassionately Move Beyond Charity” and WOW! I totally love it. And it was totally on time, because just earlier today I had a guy hit me up that he and his wife was homeless but they were clubbing and he had a cell phone bill. What I generally told him was,

    yourself and people will give you opportunities to help others so that
    you can help yourself. If you have the holy Spirit, which I know you do,
    then you need to believe that God has called you to be the blessing of
    Abraham to bless the nations. You are to lend and not borrow. You are
    to offer yourself, not beg for help. You can get help when you offer
    help much faster then holding your hands out. The mindset of people
    nowadays is that when they give to beggars is that they are EMPOWERING
    YOU to stay a beggar. And it’s easy to fall into that trap of ‘the world
    owes me and needs to help me’ then it is to be responsible for your
    situation and then getting up and making a plan to do something about

    It’s always better to teach others to catch fish for themselves then it
    is to catch fish for them. One makes you independent and useful so that you can
    contribute to others and the other makes you dependent and a burden to
    others even when they want to help.

    God’s got you, there is nothing impossible to him who believes!”

    Basically before all this I suggested that he go to the local churches and instead of ask for help, offer himself to the church or to ask the pastor or another church leader if their was work anywhere in that church or if their were any members who owned businesses that can use him. Then I told him to to list his spiritual gifts, his passions, his abilities, his personality, and what kind of experience he has to show what he could do so the pastor would have an idea of who to refer him to. I also suggested that he asked the pastor for any ideas on a place to stay near by that would have him until he got on his feet. And if that church could not help him to ask if there would be another place that can. And then I told him to wash, rinse, and repeat at every ‘no’ you get until you get a ‘yes.’ I told them it would be a hard challenge, but it would be easier to stay where he was at and complain about it. I’m hoping to hear back with from him with some kind of result. If I don’t then I am assuming taking responsibility for where he is at is too high a price.

    • http://www.48Days.net Dan Miller

      Ricardo – thanks so much for sharing that real story. It’s quite challenging to “help” without crippling the helpee.

      • http://www.davidicalhiphop.com Apostle Ricardo Reason Butler