Blessing or curse – you decide………

Like most everyone today, I have been hearing a lot of examples of hardships this week.  No jobs, no retirement funds, worthless stock, cancelled vacations, new violence and political unrest, and general uncertainty.  Rather than trying to create something profound I’d like to share this old story.

Once there was an old man who lived in a tiny village. Although poor, he was envied by all, because he owned a beautiful white horse. People offered fabulous prices for the horse, but the old man always refused. “This horse is a friend, not a possession,” he would respond.

One morning the horse was not in the stable. All the villagers said, “You old fool. We told you someone would steal that beautiful horse. You could at least have gotten the money. Now the horse is gone, and you’ve been cursed with misfortune.”

The old man responded, “Perhaps. All I know is that my horse is gone; the rest I do not know. Whether it be a curse or a blessing, I can’t say.”

After fifteen days the horse returned. He hadn’t been stolen; he had run away into the forest. Not only had he returned, he had brought a dozen wild horses back with him. Once again the village people gathered around the old man and said, “You were right – what we thought was a curse was a blessing. Please forgive us.” The old man responded, “Perhaps. Once again you’ve gone too far. How do you know if this is a blessing or a curse? Unless you can see the whole story, how can you judge?” But the people could only see the obvious. The old man now had twelve additional horses that could be broken and sold for a great deal of money.

The old man had a son, an only son. He began to break the wild horses. Unfortunately, after just a few days, he fell from a horse and broke both his legs. Once again the villagers gathered around the old man and said, “You were right. The wild horses were not a blessing; they were a curse. Your only son has broken his legs and now in your old age you have no one to help you. You are poorer than ever.” But the old man said,“Perhaps. Don’t go so far. Say only that my son broke his legs. We have only a fragment of the whole story.”

It so happened that a few weeks later the country went to war with a neighboring country. All the young men of the village were required to join the army. Only the son of the old man was excluded, because he had two broken legs. Once again the people gathered around, crying because there was little chance their sons would return. “You were right, old man.  Your son’s accident was a blessing.  Our sons are gone forever.”

The old man spoke again. “You people are always quick to jump to conclusions. Only God knows the final story.”

And so it is with our lives. What we see as a blessing or a curse may simply be part of God preparing us for what lies ahead.  Be careful in seeing “disaster” in any change.  Just recognize it as change – which opens the door for good as well as bad – for gain as well as possible loss.

I’ve spent 25 years seeing people go through unexpected and unwelcome change – and have enjoyed seeing most move on to more opportunity, freedom, fulfillment and income.

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  • http://emuelle1.blogspot.com Eric S. Mueller

    I was fired/laid off 2 years ago. As miserable an experience it was, I hated that job, and I hated that company, and I was happy to no longer be there. And I’m in a much better job today.

    • Anonymous

      Eric – funny how hindsight helps us see the advantages of what at first was a negative.

  • Ruthnbud

    Dan,
    Thank you, this story is so true. It takes a bold person to see the glass as always being half full. I admire you and agree we too often jump to conclusions and God is all knowing.

    I will try harder to embrace change because I know 2012 holds a few big changes for my family and I.

    Have a blessed day.
    Ruth

  • Chris

    Just heard this same story on the “Is Your Job Your Calling CD.” Pretty neat!

  • http://talesofwork.com kimanzi constable

    I was laid off which forced me to start a bread business that has consistently brought in $65,000 every year for the last ten years. It’s been a blessing and has enabled me to have the income to fund my true passion!

    • Anonymous

      Sometimes being an “accidental entrepreneur” turns out to be a big blessing!  Congratulations on your bread business. 

      • http://talesofwork.com kimanzi constable

        Thanks Dan, I just wish it could have turned out better. It’s an independent contractor situation and the main company is bullying the contractors into doing things the way they want. Lord willing, this will be my last year there and in Wisconsin!

  • Gibsonex2

    Wow, I needed to hear that.  I’ve been with my current company 18+ years and we were recently bought out. The job security is gone and I am no longer challenged. As a result, I thought this would be a perfect opportunity to look elsewhere for a job.
     
    I have interviewed with six companies but was not selected for any of the positions. I’ve looked at each rejection as a negative reflection on me (a curse if you will). My self esteem has taken a big hit and I am to the point of giving up on finding a better job.
     
    After reading this, I realize I don’t know the whole story yet. All of these events may be a blessing towards finding the perfect job. I feel much better now.  Thanks Dan!!!

  • http://www.threedimensionalvitality.com/ Ann J Musico

    I love this!  It’s a story I used with my coaching clients and it is absolutely so true.  We don’t have the ability to determine whether something that happens is a blessing or curse because we don’t have the ability to see the whole story.  Only God has that ability and if we are truly trusting that He holds us in the palm of His hand, we can trust that even if something looks like a curse – He can still use it for our good and His glory.

  • Dvdglly

    Dan,  This is a good story but what about the collaspe of the world’s currencies?  What are we to do then?  A great transfer of wealth is on the horizon.  How do we prepare for that?

  • Anonymous

    This story sounds a lot like the book, “The Four Agreements”. Agreement #2, never assume anything. 
    (The other 3 are, “Always use your words impeccably, never take anything personally, and do the best you can given the cards you’ve been dealt”.)

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Vickie-Smith/1462145959 Vickie Smith

    I like your stories :)    I’ll add “all things work together for the good of them that love the Lord”   my life has led up to being “divinely positioned”  for the amazing things the Lord has in store for me and my family.
    http://www.ahouseforchristmas.com

  • Anonymous

    Thank you for sharing this story, Dan. This is something I learned a long time ago–and yet still continue to learn to this day.

    A little over a year ago, I wrote a blog post on a very similar subject (http://www.faithandthemagickingdom.net/2010/09/alice-in-wonderland-making-sense-of.html). Sometimes we know more than other times, but only God can truly see the whole picture. Our natural tendency is to try to make sense of circumstances and events, and while at times that is beneficial, it often does nothing more than rob us of the opportunity to move forward. Of course, we ought to learn from the setbacks and celebrate the triumphs, but that doesn’t mean dwell on them at the expense of looking ahead. We trust God that He is working for our best–as He knows it is, not as we dimly perceive it, and step out in that confident trust.

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