Burn those “self-help” books

A podcast listener recently asked:

“Dan, You mentioned Wattles’ book, The Science of Getting Rich.  I have heard strong negative reaction to such books (Think and Grow Rich, specifically) among believers.  (And my wife is among them, unfortunately.)  What is your response to Christians who are antagonistic towards those books?  How can I persuade my wife to consider their message?”

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The question is how much initiative do we take in our own lives as opposed to just letting God direct our every move.  Now personally, I’ve never seen God show up at the bank to make my mortgage payment or to pay the lawn guys for mowing my grass.  Just this morning I was driving Joanne’s car and noticed it was low on gas.  It was raining like crazy – I pulled into the gas station – man, I would have loved it if God just showed up and pumped gas in for me.  But no, like always, I had to get out in the rain, pump the gas myself and pull money out of my pocket to pay for it.

Do I think then that we’re just all on our own – certainly not?  How then does God help or equip us.  Friday night we had a private concert here with Ted Yoder – the 2010 National Hammered Dulcimer Champion.  Ted told me that in the early years people always told him he was so gifted, and he often wondered why God hadn’t made him successful.  But then he discovered being “gifted” means there was the seed of a talent – and that seed needed to be nurtured by hours and hours of practice, asking for opportunities to play, scraping enough  money together to produce that first album and developing that seed into a national championship.  Seeds of any kind typically require fertilizer, water and hard work before they grow into a profitable and appealing plant.

Have you ever noticed that even if God allows you to have a dream – you’re expected to work to make it happen?  If you’re chosen for the football team at your school – then you have to practice, to work out hard, day after day – to keep your place.  If you’re accepted into a prestigious college – then you have to study to keep your grades up or that college will ask you to leave.  It seems that even when dreams are coming true – God requires our part in the process.

There is a spiritual life lesson for all of us to gain from seeing what happened in Ted Yoder’s success.   Yes, we can have dreams – yes, those dreams may come into view – but it requires a clear plan of action on our part.  It requires imagination.  It requires desire, hard work, self-discipline and faith.

The life I have today was not merely God’s gift to Joanne and me.  What we have and are is the result of God’s creation having been shaped and molded by human intelligence and hard work.  The ancient Jewish church had a prayer that they would recite at Passover that describes how this works:

“Blessed are you, Lord, God of all creation.
Through your goodness we have this bread to offer,
which earth has given and human hands have made.
It will become for us the bread of life.”

That prayer reveals a profound spiritual principle:  God’s gifts are raw materials, not finished products.  Think about the most revered sacrament in the church – Holy Communion.  Does God give us bread and wine?  Where can you find those in nature?  You can’t.   God makes wheat, He doesn’t make bread.  He makes grapes – not wine.  But when we take the raw materials God gives us, we can add our work and give them back to him as an offering.

And I remember reading in the most popular “self-help” book available:  “For even when we were with you, we gave you this rule: The one who is unwilling to work shall not eat.” ( 2 Thes. 3:10)

This is a picture of the spiritual life for each of us.  Every one of you has special gifts – singing, writing, gardening, art, computer skills, selling abilities, teaching others, encouraging others – but whatever our gift is – it’s a raw product.  It has limited value until we apply the discipline necessary to make it useful to ourselves and others.

We get nothing but rough materials – life doesn’t hand us the finished product.  Life may even bring us obstacles or heartache along the way.  But ultimately, our lives are the bread that we prepare.  Our lives are what those around us see as the result of what we’ve done with those raw materials.

So the issue is balance – is it all us, NO.  Is it all God, NO.  We develop the raw products of what God has given us.  The debate about books like The Science of Getting Rich, or Think and Grow Rich comes from extreme edges of the faith community.

I recently read a couple books by Franciscan priest Richard Rohr.  He comments on how to joyfully surrender ourselves to God, and how to pray:  “Asking for something from God does not mean talking God into it; it means an awakening of the gift within ourselves.”

 

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  • http://TeamEagleRevolution.com Bryan Hart

    I can see why some may hesitate when reading Think and Grow Rich due to some philosophical differences. However, how many books are out there that any of us would agree with totally when it comes to philosophy or theology. There is a ton of good meat in those books, and you can always pick out your bones.

  • GabbyTabby

    If you sit back and wait for miracles, what is that but sloth? And what you get means nothing if you did nothing to earn it.

  • Chris Barber

    totally agree Dan – BRAVO! 
    love the reminder that even the Communion elements require work to create. 
    they do not just appear each week for us to eat and drink! 
    thanks again! 

  • http://www.4PointsCoaching.com Joel Boggess

    Hi Dan,

    I bet Ted put on a beautiful performance. When I asked him about it in the interview, his emotions overtook him and he realized the reality of his coming full circle.

    I love the image of “seed of a talent”. The seed is the gift God gives us.
    How we nurture and work with it, is our gift back to Him and, (dare I say) ourselves. It is also our distinct responsibility.

    Speaking of looking for opportunities, I had the pleasure of interviewing Nashville singer/songwriter Walker Hayes on my most recent podcast and he talked about walking the streets of Lower Broadway playing for tips and honing his performance skills.

    “I just went down there and found an empty
    corner. It was kind of scary, but it was also liberating.” “It was good for my soul.”
    http://www.4pointscoaching.com/walkerhayespodcast

    Walker also proudly admits, “I did a lot of yard work.”

  • Dave Eblen

    Hi Dan,

    I don’t think most believer’s objections to “Think and Grow Rich” are based on ‘how much does God do and how much do we do’ (Although that’s an important, but I think separate, issue).  Consequently I disagree very much with your statement that debate over the book comes from the “extreme edges of the faith community.”  I think the objections are more based on the theology, pseudo-science and the emphasis given to dwelling on treasures on earth.  I would hope those concerns are not considered as being from the “extreme edge”.

      Having said that though, I agree with some of the other commenters, and you in your books, when you say that we have to learn to pull out the nuggets from the dross, and not toss out whole books or authors based on differences in our paradigms.  I read the book and found some good things in it, but I am not comfortable recommending it to others.  But that’s just my own opinion – I don’t demand others feel the same way.

  • http://twitter.com/MarianneClement Marianne Clements

    Dan,

    I totally agree with you.  We do not get from seed to fruit without a lot of hard work in between.  Another saying I have heard is, “God feeds the birds, but he doesn’t put the food in their nests!”  We do have to participate in the process.  God instructs us to help others do what they cannot do alone, but He does not instruct us to do for others what they can do for themselves.  Likewise, He will not do for us what we can do for ourselves. 

    I was a bit timid about reading “Think and Grow Rich” and at first I was a bit put off by his constant repetition of the desire for money, BUT he later said that your goal can’t simply be for money.  Additionally, all of the principles he mentioned are Biblical principles.  So, to the guy with the wife who refuses to read it — give it a try and just listen with spiritual ears.  We need money to fund God’s Kingdom, so money is not evil — the LOVE of money is the root of all kinds of evil. 

    Have a Victorious Day!Marianne Clementswww.VictoryChristianCoaching.com

    • Anonymous

      Marianne – to be totally honest I don’t normally recommend Think and Grow Rich.  You won’t see it on my recommended book list.  I too think he goes overboard in finding the source of everything we need within ourselves.  But for people who do read it I trust that they will discern the good and discard the bad – as with any book.

  • Archie

    Self help or not, I enjoy the blessings of positive and encouraging messages that God instills in others. Also, if the author of great books and cds happen to not be confessed Christians, I STILL FIRMLY believe God places important messages in them, for the believers. Hey, God spoke through donkeys, so why wouldn’t he speak through any person?
    Thanks Dan, great realistic perspective.
    Happy Thanksgiving all!
    -Archie, Gloria, Austin and Adam

    • Dan

      Archie – that’s a great way to frame this “I enjoy the blessings of positive and encouraging messages that God instills in others.”

      Thanks for sharing it in that way.

  • Michael

    While there is some value in the “self-help” books, they are limited in that they rarely mention God and seem to focus too much on our own efforts.  While not opposed to hard work, I have found out the hard way that relying too much on myself often leads to trouble.  After all, Proverbs states that the Lord even blesses those He loves while they sleep!

    Thankfully, there are many Christian authors out there (John Maxwell, Zig Ziglar, Max Lucado, Charles Stanley, Chuck Swindoll, and a host of others) producing positive messages about our identity in Jesus Christ and our personal responsibility to be good stewards of what God has entrusted us with.

    Michael

    • http://www.4PointsCoaching.com Joel Boggess

      Don’t forget to mention Dan Miller.

  • Barbararpeter

    Dan, I am thrilled that you read Wallace Wattles’ book, “The Science of Getting Rich.” In my opinion, Rebecca Fine (promoter of the materials) is one of the most spiritually conscious people out there when it comes to the subject of prosperity.  Earlier this year, I ordered the audio book and listened to it constantly whenever I was driving. While I was at it, I also took the wonderful opportunity to sign up for “The Science of Getting Rich for Practical Geniuses.” From there, my path lead to Edwene Gaines’ book, “The Four Spiritual Laws of Prosperity.” For me, the year 2011 has been largely focused on the aspect of prosperity from a spiritual perspective. I learned alot from these materials. One of the most important lessons learned was that whenever we harbor unforgiveness in our hearts, it blocks the flow of prosperity into our lives. From these materials, I grew the courage to reunite with my sister who has not spoken to me for 22 years. Thank you, Dan, for so freely sharing with us what you are doing on your life’s path.

    • Anonymous

      Barbara – thanks so much for your comments.  I have thoroughly enjoyed “The Science of Getting Rich” and have read it many times over.  The story of reuniting with your sister is amazing.  That’s what so many people miss – using success principles in any area of our lives has an undeniable carryover impact on the other areas as well.  It’s like “a rising tide raises all ships.”  We cannot increase success financially without having it increase our success in other areas as well.

  • Vatlas50

    I read and listen to a lot of these self-development books to add to the continued financial and personal development that I desire to help me grow as a total person. I don’t have a problem with them because I am aware of my personal Biblical foundation before I read them and after I read them. Just because some authors may go overboard in their emphasis on self-dependence in achieving some of their content, I am not overly influenced by the authors efforts nor do I take any “marching orders” from them. Most of the information in these books, for me, is a “process of gleaning the fields” of those that have achieved and in turn balance my efforts with my heart felt intent to become a better person for the benefit of my family and extended relationships.

    Victor

    • Anonymous

      Victor – thanks for your helpful comments here.  You are so right – we need to have an ability to discern no matter what we are reading.  If we read the morning newspaper and believe everything in there we are in trouble.  Maturity should allow us to read from a variety of sources and to sort out what is helpful and true.

  • mvoorhis

    Dan;  My own personal experience has been interersting, in that I advanced tremendously in my thinking from self help books such as Think and Grow Rich.  HOWEVER, it came after I first re-established my own Christian beliefs through other means, such as Alasdair Begg, Charles Swindoll, Rick Warren, and RC Sproul.  I became saved first (thank you Alasdair Begg!), before treading into deeper waters.  If I didn’t have this firm ground to stand on, Think and Grow Rich and other similar books (i.e. “The Secret”) could be dangerous.  However, as Victor states below, if you read these books for motivation and sturcture/systems to advance your goals, they can be quite valuable.  But you need to have already framed and established your goals in the proper context, that is, a biblical perspective.  Thanks for all you do. Mark

    • Anonymous

      Mark – great perspective on this.  I read a lot of things for my own enjoyment and learning that you will never see me recommend on an open format like this.  I like to read things that challenge my beliefs and assumptions but I would be hesitant to make it appear that I am recommending them.

  • Tami Miller

    I completely agree with the comments offered here and below that our biblical foundation needs to be just that – our foundation – before we plunge deep into any “self-help” book.  God in the end is the one who provides the beginning and we must do our part to get to the end of what he wants to do with our lives and for those that believe in his Son there is an earthly end, but not a heavenly end!

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