Better to Try and Fail – or not try at all??

Recently I watched the 2007 movie Lions for Lambs.  In this movie a brilliant but apathetic student asks his professor (Robert Redford), “Is there any difference in trying but failing, and simply failing to try – if you end up in the same place anyway?”  He was attempting to justify taking the safe route; never really taking a stand or trying anything big.

What do you think?  Do you cringe at trying something big because of the possibility of failure?  What if you tried for the promotion but failed to get it, started a business but lost your investment, or tried a MLM system but got nothing other than a garage full of vitamins – are you somehow better off?  Or would your life have been better if you had avoided the hassle and the disappointment altogether?

Yes, I’m hearing from people every day who tried and failed.  One gentleman lost $11 million in a gas and oil business.  Another lost $3.2 million inherited from his grandmother in a failed retail clothing business.  A close friend lost $24 million in a failed real estate development.  Research shows that if you are under thirty years old, there is 90% chance you will be fired sometime in the next twenty years.  Bernie Marcus was fired from a job as manager of theHandyDanImprovementCenter, then went on to start Home Depot.  In 1988 I experienced a horrible “failure” in business – having to borrow a car to drive to start generating income again.  Should I have avoided the pain and anguish by taking a safer route, or was that experience the necessary catalyst for learning the principles that launched the success I enjoy today?

My theory is that you will be a brighter, better person for trying something big – even if you “fail.”

What has your life experience taught you about trying big things?  Have you learned to keep a low profile to avoid failure?  Or have you found that “failure” leads to bigger successes?

No More Dreaded Mondays tells the story of my failures and provides principles for coming back to success.

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  • http://briandavidokeefe.com Brian David O’Keefe

    As someone that has spent the last 14 months “failing” at my business attempts, I can say that it’s been worth it. Discouraging, yes, but also exciting. All of this failure will make for a better story when I finally have some level of success! Now, back to “work”…

  • http://www.prolificliving.com/blog Farnoosh

    Dan, I am right there with you, more so than ever before. I’d rather fail a thousand times than go back to the safe and meaningless work I used to do. I’d rather take all the risks, rip my heart into shreds in the process of trying, but know the answer of “What If I just give it my all” in the end … because deep down, I just don’t see how I can fail when I am following my heart, with a dose of confidence and smarts. :) Failure isn’t stopping me and I see how it sure hasn’t stopped you, lucky for all of us, because now we enjoy your wisdom……

  • Elizabeth McAlister

    While I sincerly hope (PRAY) not to “fail” as big as some of those numbers you mentioned (okay, ANY of them), if you learn from it; get back up; and move forward… it’s not failure.
     
    If you don’t try at all, you’ll never know where you could have been or what you could have done.

  • http://findingforwardmotion.com Tony Elam

    If failure is an event and not person, then I hosted a premiere event!  I failed for nearly 10 years, with money, relationships, and even my health, but here is the thing.  I failed at mediocre attempts.  I played it safe and still lost.  I decided at the very least, I was going to fail at something I wanted this time around.

  • http://www.StumblingAroundInTheLight.com Teri Miller

    An incredibly wise man I know said this:
    “Pushing to failure is the only way to discover what you’re capable of.”  — Kevin Miller

    He has lived it.  As have you, Dan.
    Plenty of failure and pain and regret.  And yet.  Fruit of what he is capable of — a home built from his dreams & sweat & tears & blood & failure & sacrifice — a family growing thru love & peace & failure & strength & Christ-dependent-independence — a business finally thriving out of visions & heartache & hopes & failures.

    A chip off the ol’ block, eh?

    • Anonymous

      Teri – yep, Kevin probably heard me tell the Robert Schuller stories a hundred times.  I high jumper doesn’t know how good he/she can be until he trips the bar.  

  • http://www.abetterwayofbusiness.com/ Ivan Bickett

    Until recently I thought if I ever did something and failed then I was a … failure. Nothing learned. Nothing gained. Just a big black splotch on my eternal score card shouting, “LOOK AT THIS FAILURE! IDIOT!”

    So I did nothing I wasn’t 100% I could win at. And that lead to an ok life, b/c I can win at a lot of things. More I’d say than the average person.

    But “OK” is not why I was put on this earth. “OK” is not what my God designed me for. Settling for “OK” is not what made me attractive to my wife (not sure what did that exactly, but I know it wasn’t “OK”).

    It wasn’t until I had health problems and realized there was VERY LITTLE I liked in ANY part of my life that I changed.

    Now, I’m pursuing self employment. I’m pushing myself to the point I know I’m going to have failures. I don’t want them, but I’m sure statistically speaking they are now heading my way.

    And as Teri said below, how will I know what I’m capable unless I push myself to failure (well Teri said it for Kevin… but you get my point).

    I have already be labeled, and very proudly I might add, as a “quitter” for quitting my day job. Now I am pushing to earn the title of “failure”, too!

    Great post.

    ~Ivan

    • Anonymous

      Ivan – Coach Rick Patino says failure is the fertilizer required for success.  It’s great that you’re viewing failure in a different light.

  • Theresa Lode

    Dan, your encouraging posts never fail to lift my spirits.  Thank you so very much. 

  • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

    Love it Dan.

    After being let go from a bookstore(where I was first introduced to your book!), I started a computer repair business. My heart was not in it and I did not succeed in the venture. However, from that, I was able to obtain the job I currently have in the IT department of a company I work for. The business was a failure, but it led me to brighter pastures, for now.

  • http://www.cherubdefense.com/blog Elmer

    I do fear failure – but my fear of not trying is probably worse.  I have a dream of owning my own business and working towards it everyday.  I’m even working on getting a job related to my passion to help fund that dream of owning my own business.

    However, I there was a time where I was afraid of failure.  I was so afraid that I froze and did nothing.  I’m still trying to get over it right now.  However, each day that I blog, pursue a bite size a piece of my dream, and save to fund my goals helps me get over that fear of failure.  I face me fear of failure from dealing with it head on.

  • Shekinah

    Dan, I know many people who have dreams but do nothing that is not ‘safe.’ I have always thought it was a sign of weakness not to ‘put yourself out there’ and take chances – though I tried not to put anyone down for not doing their best. Lately, I have been wondering if I am guilty of only trying safe things too.

    All I can add to the conversation is, ‘pray that I use the courage God gave me to fulfill His purpose for my life. In every aspect; spiritually, physically, emotionally, etc.’

    • Anonymous

      That’s a great motivator.  None of us want to stand before God and have him say we lived our life too small.

  • Lonnie Roberts

    In searching for middle ground on this matter, I would like to say that before setting out with the possibility of failure, always calculate risk. I don’t want to be a prude or sound discouraging, but I see numerous small business failures where owners forgot the basic premise that no matter how you look at it, or how much you love what you are doing, 2 + 2 = 4.

    • Anonymous

      Lonnie – yeah I know I’m one to just jump out there and be confident a parachute will appear while I’m in midair.  And oh – I also tend to believe that many times 2+2=5.

  • Jean

     As long as the failure isn’t fatal (e.g. you find out too late you weren’t cut out to be a professional motorcycle racer), failure can teach a person a lot about him or herself and about the field in which they made an attempt. Alan Greenspan was a failure as a jazz musician, but learned that he had a capacity for understanding money when he managed the meager funds of his fellow bandmates. There are any number of instances when failure in one arena has led to success in an area that was completely different.

    • Anonymous

      Jean – thanks for sharing.  I didn’t know that about Alan Greenspan.  But it’s certainly true that we typically discover our greatest talents when we’re busy doing SOMETHING.

  • Rhodescampuslife

    Ideas are not wisdom.  Ideas are what we have BEFORE we test them in the fires of real life.  Failure is the feedback needed to refine our ideas.  Although it is possible to have a great idea, it is rare.  Actually, we have parts of somewhat-ok ideas, put them into play, and tweak them as we go along.  If you aren’t in that process, you can’t get the final product. 

    • Anonymous

      Very well said!  Ideas are worthless until tried in real life – and that may bring “failure” in one attempt.

  • http://twitter.com/christophermust christopher battles

    Thank you Dan, 
                
           I have not read the book, but I am reminded of the title “Falling Forward.”  As you and Dave Ramsey and Cliff Ravenscraft and others say, “What is the worst that can happen?”  I am thinking of my future and I am starting to set goals.  The two big ones are becoming debt free and working on a career.  So right now I see this lesson on failure as putting myself in a place where I can step out of my current “comfort bubble,” which is not really that comfortable now. :)  Looking a bit down the road I see when I have “3-6 months of saving” I will be able to further have the ability to step out bigger.  Just writing this reply is teaching me some things.
    Thank you again Dan for all you do.

    K, bye

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