“I Used to Be Decisive, Now I’m Not So Sure”

I don’t know of anything that can cripple hope and the possibility of success more than indecision.

I get rather impatient with some people when the mortgage is due, the children are hungry and the lights are about to be cut off and they are still just praying about what to do.  I know what to do; quit hiding behind your pious excuse for inactivity – and start moving.

“Indecision and delays are the parents of failure.” — George Canning, English statesman

One of Zig Ziglar’s famous stories is of a childhood neighbor lady who pulled some biscuits out of the oven that were no thicker than silver dollars.  When little Zig asked what happened, the cook laughed and said, “Well, those biscuits squatted to rise, but they just got cooked in the squat.”

I see people who have gotten “cooked in the squat.” They are going to do something just as soon as they gather all the necessary information.  But weeks, months and then years slip by.  Protected in the safety of gathering more information they miss new opportunities all together.  A client told me he had gone to work at the local bank – just as a temporary position until he could do a little research about which career field to really pursue.  Guess what?  That was 17 years ago and he’s still at the bank.  The acceptable illusion of still getting ready robbed him of 17 years of his life.

When do you have enough knowledge to start something new?  When you decide to take action! The baby eagle learns how to fly as he is heading straight toward the rocks below, not while sitting on the edge of the nest.  The business owner learns while hiring, buying, and making mistakes more than while sitting in a classroom.  The unemployed person approaches success while knocking on doors, making phone calls, and getting repeated rejections, not while scanning the Internet and reading textbooks.

“There is no more miserable human being than the one in whom nothing is habitual but indecision.”  William James

Don’t get “cooked in the squat.” It will cripple you!

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  • http://www.charion.com Charion Slocum

    This is a hard reality, one that we keep learning with every turn unfortunately.

  • http://www.themotherlode.wordpress.com Theresa Lode

    Another knock-’em-outta-the-park post Dan. I finished a book last week on dealing with clutter and the author concluded that the number one reason people accumulate so much STUFF is…the drum roll, please….INDECISION.

    His conclusion blew my mind but the more I mull this over the more it makes senses to me. A tendency to “leave all the options open” or the “I might need this one day” thinking. Not that those lines of thought are bad but in the extreme…oh my! (Have you see the program “Hoarders”?) I have personally seen (and helped) people who have turned their homes into a prison because of all the stuff they’ve accumulation.

    Keep on with the powerful messages and great writing…

  • http://www.joshbulloc.com Josh Bulloc

    I force myself to get moving by putting myself right in the middle or whatever it is I need to do so my only way out is completion.

    Josh Bulloc
    Kansas City, MO

  • http://www.CelebrateCalm.com Kirk Martin, Celebrate Calm

    More great insight, Dan. This resonates strongly. Just reading Napoleon Hill’s symptoms of the fear of poverty: indifference, indecision, worry, over-caution, procrastination. I’ve learned when I feel that fear of taking the next step, that it’s a gateway, a door to new opportunities.

    The more I step through new doors, the more it becomes a habit. We’re trying to inculcate that in our company culture: throw ourselves through those doors! Jump in. Fail. Learn from your mistakes. Do it better next time. But open that door. Faith without works is dead. The work is opening that new door. Thanks for the inspiration.

  • http://wwww.treesidecommunications.com Steve Rainwater

    Hi Dan,

    I was the poster child for your article for about a year after hitting some roadblocks in my work both due to some recession related downturns and changes resulting simply from the evolution of my industry (I’m a writer who wrote/writes mostly freelance for print trade publications). I spent way too long in indecision. (My father always told me I think too much. I’m a grandfather already and beginning to think I finally get it.)

    Once I started taking some action things began to unfold much more clearly. The dilemmas aren’t all resolved yet, but the road really does open up and the course starts to become clearer through action. Good stuff here. slr

  • http://www.reverbnation.com/angelonatalie Angelo Natalie

    I have always struggled with indecision and lately, with clutter. I’ve been able to make a living in spite of this flaw because I thrive on client-directed deadlines & assignments. But chronic & debilitating indecision has kept me from completing my personal speculative projects.

    I just successfully completed a massive project that began in Dec. 2009. Right after I was commissioned for this project I found this quote:

    “Are you in earnest? Seize this very minute! Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Only engage, and then the mind grows heated. Begin, and then the work will be completed.”
    Jean Anouilh

  • http://www.digitaldynamicsmedia.com Kevin Herrin

    Ouch. That hits close to home. My big thing is to wait and see what happens, often times out of a fear of what “could” happen.

    Fear is a companion of indecision and I’ve realized that as a Christian living in fear is not good. God’s word tells us to not fear, fret not, be anxious for nothing etc, and trust Him.

    Thanks for the encouragement Dan. I really needed this today! Now back to work!

    Kevin

  • http://westlandassociates.com Tom Leatherby

    Thank you Dan, this article was right on target. I spend a great number of hours meeting with people who I know will never begin the work they are presenting to me. My staff now must put their action items on a timeline prior to the presentation. I then force myself to only judge their work by their progress on the timeline. I found that I can live with mistakes, but inaction was killing us.

    On another note… Like some of the other comments, I too have read a number of books on removing clutter. My favorite action item from these readings was from a book that ended with the author suggesting to throw away the book to get me started on clutter removal.

  • Greg T.

    great identifying the symptoms, but what do you do about it if you a chronic indecider?

  • Danny T

    Holy cow! This just completely smacked me upside the head. I didn’t realize it until 5 minutes ago, that I have been “Looking into…” a couple of things for way too long now.

  • Patty T

    I’m thinking about all the times I’ve wasted money because I “couldn’t decide” what to make for dinner until it got so late and everyone was so hungry that, in desperation, I drove 15 miles to go to a drive-thru. Too bad I couldn’t have at least cooked my squat and had squat casserole. Now I don’t got squat.

  • http://www.glendall.com Glenda Powers

    I shouldn’t be laughing, because this is a sad scenerio…but that story is absolutely hilarious. I can totally relate, but I’m moving now…and that was my past.

    For me I didn’t want to look rediculous by stepping out before I was “ready”, but the more I would learn the more I realized I didn’t know enough to really do this thing. Hesitation just creates fear and self doubt.

    What I took away from this is you get prepared by trying, not by planning.

  • Donna W

    I am your story and it hurts bad to realize this & admit it. Where do I begin. That’s my excuse – I have so many things I’m interested that I can’t choose one I sso I choose none or all. Either way I am paralized & can’t decide anything. So now I read my story in black & white & I must make a choice to not be perfect; to take chances & possibly, no probably fall on my face. Thank you Dan for putting the mirror in front of my face. A blog, a recipe, a pattern. I choose all 3 but begin with one.

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